Want your child to be creative, curious and take risks? Don't do what I did.

It was rapidly approaching bedtime and the girls had finished dinner. I was in a bit of a rush. We were heading out for dinner for the first time in some time (#COVID #smallchildren #ilovestayingin #melbournewinter) and I was keen to get the bedtime routine moving. I offered the girls ice-cream and unsurprisingly, they accepted. I started stacking the dishwasher, cleaning up spilt milk, and mentally going through my to do list. “Mum! I said, can you put this in the microwave?

1 thing I hate about being a mum

Being sick is never a lot of fun. Migraines, nausea, back pain, period pain and the flu – none of that sparks joy. What wasn’t in the brochure was that after you have kids, you kind of have to tough it out and deal with these things and just carry on being a mum. I remember the first time that this became apparent to me. I had gastro and while feeding at god knows what time in the morning, I had to stop part way through, lay down a suddenly crying and probably confused baby

I love feedback (and other surprising things becoming a Mum has taught me)

I love feedback. I used to think I didn’t because when you’re a psychologist and your Director says ‘good job’, it’s pretty hard to feel like that’s valid because they don’t actually SEE your work. Then when I had my beautiful baby, I suddenly realised that actually, I had been getting feedback from multiple sources– from the gym where I was encouraged by trainers and felt increasingly fit, from my friends who I would meet out and they would say nice things about what you’d

The one sentence that changed how I dealt with 'mum guilt'

The one sentence that changed how I dealt with ‘mum guilt’. I used to run a bit before I had children. When I worked in the city I figured out it took me about the same amount of time to run home as it did to catch public transport, and it was a great way to fit in a workout when I was time poor. The feeling of freedom was amazing. I would run home, sometimes in the dark and in the rain, and I’d feel strangely exhilarated. Shortly into my pregnancy running felt awkward, s

How to love your child unconditionally (it’s not as obvious as it seems)

A few months ago, one of my friends wrote on our Whatsapp chat that her son had a hard time sitting still, and wasn’t interested in arts and crafts. One of the other mums noted that it wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be (anyone who has found specs of glitter weeks after cleaning it up can relate), and that she wished her child was as active and as outgoing as the other mum’s child. It made me think. How would we have felt as children if we overheard our own mums having this con

Feeling lonely as a new mum? You're not alone.

Here's five things that might help. Feeling lonely as a new mum? You’re not alone. (Here’s 5 things that might help) I felt like I had anticipated quite a lot of things about motherhood - I knew I’d be sleep deprived, that I wouldn’t have much time alone, and that this little tiny human would change our social lives dramatically. One of the things that took me by surprise was the loneliness. I’d always been pretty social. I come from a big family, I played team sports and I w